How did I know when to take the steaks off for a perfect medium rare? Here is how I knew. This takes some practice. Alternatively, use a thermometer. When the center of a steak get to 110 degrees (this only applies to steaks), take it off! Put the steak on a dish and cover it with foil, and let the meat re-distribute its juices for 10 minutes. The meat will continue to cook and will end up about 125 degrees. That's a perfect medium rare.
Who is Ashish? He is my sister husband and a recent and welcome addition to our family. My kids call him Uncle Ashish. Uncle Ashish showed me how to smoke (grill really, we did not use smoke) eggplant. Let me tell you, this is worth making.